DH and I have been married for 3 yrs. My husband is courting Umm Kasem. We have no children of our own yet. But we would love to have a big family. All of us We are reverts to Islam. I’m going back to school. I’m happy and incredibly optimistic about our future. When I started this my husband was engaged to be married to a seemingly great woman, who ended up being psycho at best. We are taking some time to get our finances sorted, and hopefully we will start looking for another sister-wife. Hubby is courting courted some chick he met online. It didn’t work out. She acted allergic to bathing, and reminded me of a bad farce on SNL. Laquiesha anyone? So the search continues. This blog is about our marriage, and our journey for a second. I pray my sanity stays intact while we do so.
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soooo…. the bigger city you’re telling me about… that was the city you told me about, right?
don’t want to say it out here.
wow i just read your blog…pretty interesting.
you must be a strong woman by everything you are taking on in your life.
i’m not muslim, or could ever imagine living in polygamy…but i’m very happy to see that you are taking this in your life for the right reasons(fertility).
i wish you a lot of luck in your journey…and i hope everything works out to benifit you positivly:)
Salam, just found your blog and it looks interesting, love your style of writing
nice blog, hits close to home. hope you find a sister wife that will be a “true sister” to you!!!
Thanks sis
, I hope we do too.
no problem sister; hope the next “one” is stress free (maybe you can get one with a remote control???)
Lol!!!
hopefully “mute” control at least you won’t have to listen if she is a pain. or maybe we can find one who is a midget this way we can clean the top of the house and she can clean the bottom (like under the couch) or she can hold a tray on top of her head and become a nightstand!!!great ideas huh???
Rofl! You are silly
i thought it was a good idea!!!! ok how about we get a double sister wife (siamese twins) that will take care of sister wife 2 & 3. we will only have to worry about #4 ( who could be trouble)
(if i do not joke about it i might cry)
LOL I love your edit!
I need to edit it again lol
Not to put your hopes down, sisters, but I don’t think we can get “siamese twins” that will take care of wives 2 and 3 since the man is forbidden to marry two sisters at the same time lol…. just a reminder in case that was your train of thought
Lol omg that is so true. I didn’t think of that 300( I almost said ur name lol). So are Siamese sisters not allowed to marry in islam if they are stuck together forever?
oopsy small setback!!!! well we can make #2 a midget, #3 a bearded lady & #4 the right sided sister from the siamese twins (or left if you perfer)
Now that should be a different fatwa altogether LOL for siamese twins haha But really…. they do exist and may Allah provide and take care of them in the best way. Ameen!
Besides that…. lol I can joke about another sister’s appearance when she’s my co-wife, but really…. all I would like is for her to really love me. I would definitely have a low self-esteem and become depressed is I see she’s prettier than me or become jealous, but I ask Allah to remove those sentiments from my heart if we can all live together happily with Allah’s blessings.
+_+) … Although I’m not sure whether I can trust myself to be good-natured when I do get a co-wife lol.
i hope everyone knows that i was just teasing. i too would be jealous if my sister wife were beautiful, but remember beauty never lasts forever. and if it happens that she is maybe i will have something that she does not have, maybe i could cook better then her. if she is a true super woman and can cook and is beautiful (and can do everthing) well, then i will be in trouble!!! :0) but no matter what she looks like i think we all need a sister that we can lean on too besides our husbands. she (hopefully) would understand things about me that my husband might find strange or a “woman” thing! Allah swt help us all to find a sister wife to help us through this difficult life.
Ameen!Well put sis
3oclock, I’m sure you will make the sweetest co-wife ever.
I pray Allah swt has someone in store for you guys who is just as sweet as you 7abibti! Can you imagine, someone to gang up on the hubby with? Someone to cook, and shop with inshAllah
It’s like the real life sister you never had!
….someone to nag hubby with !!!!
TRUE! But oh man, that would piss me off if I was the one nagging and so my hubs goes to seek comfort from the other wife LOL. But really…. thinking about it gives me some cheering up that at least I’ll have the same “wife-status” as the Mothers of the Believers, insha’Allah. But like I said…. I’m not sure if I’m going to like the idea of sharing my hubs with another woman lol but I’ll submit to whatever Allah wills insha’Allah.
awwwww thanks, baby! no kidding, that would be SO MUCH FUN! Anyway…. whatever Allah has planned for me, that’s what will happen even though I do not wish for a co-wife lol.
i do not think any body willingly looks or hopes for a co-wife. but sometimes i see certain situations that some women do not have a very good chance of becoming married, then i feel bad for these women, and thank allah that i am married. imagine going your whole life without a husband??? i rather “share” and gain reward from allah swt then see that woman go to sin because she sees no other way or feels lost. life is hard and not everyones will is strong. the problem is trying to find a truthful co-wife. there are so many who are only out for a paycheck (child support, alimony) these women i can’t stand!!! as far as i am concerned you can line them all up on the firing wall. allah forgive me but i do not feel sorry for these types of evil backstabbing women.
And subhana’Allah, that’s the EXACT reason why I made myself love the wisdom of Allah in having co-wives. As much as I’m going to feel bad if I ever do have a co-wife, I will never be a true muslim if I don’t wish for the sisters of my ummah what I wish for myself. Alhamdulillah, Allah gave me a wonderful man and I trust that insha’Allah he’ll treat me as a favourite or at least as equal as possible to my co-wife (if Allah wills one for me
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just i think what if the situation were reversed, what i were left in this world alone with my kids? i am not that strong to deal with it all on my own. and i am not insha allah going to send my kids to some stupid public school!!! i cannot keep them at home with me and support them all at the same time.
Hi Amina,
Is there a direct email address where I can send you something?
Thanks,
Brian
dawlface84@gmail.com